Just Getting By

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gregrulzok
gregrulzok

Small FTM Passing Tips

Disclaimer: Use in moderation. Do whatever feels comfortable and right. Always remember that you don't have to pass or do any of these things. Uh. Idk. Drink water.

Also I don't even follow all of these and I try pretty damn hard to pass. So again. Do whatever you wanna.

Voice

  • Vocal coaches and singers will tell you to "keep your voice in your chest/belly". They're right, but don't feel bad if it takes a while - it's hard to explain what it means but if you keep trying you'll find it.
  • What you wanna do is find your larynx - the lump in your throat - and lower is as much as possible when you speak.
  • Try humming and moving your larynx up and down and see what feels cozy.
  • Speak slower if you can, too.
  • Also, use less sentence fillers. "Uhm, uh, like" things like that.

Clothes

  • Dark/neutral colours are your friends.
  • Layering is always always handy.
  • Also it can help to tuck your lowermost layer into your pants - it helps square off your hips.
  • Wear baggy pants but not baggy shirts - they'll just make you look small.
  • If you can - avoid wearing jewelry.
  • If you really want to, keep it simple. Silver rings, dog-tag necklaces, leather bracelets, black stud earrings, things like that.
  • Don't wear make-up unless it's to contour your jaw/fill in your eyebrows, things like that.
  • Also, septum, medusa, and dimple piercings tend to read as feminine. Try a nose bridge, snakebites or eyebrows.

Posture/Walk

  • Try to pull your shoulders forward so you lead with them.
  • But don't hunch them - square them, spread out, take up space.
  • Also, manspread. Manspread as much as you want, the world is yours.
  • Stand with your legs apart, too.
  • Keep your chin up. If you wanna look down on something, tilt your eyes, not your head.
  • Walk with your toes slightly out, and try to make your steps heavy.

And a Slightly Bigger Tip:

  • Work out.
  • Work out 2-5 times a week.
  • Once a week you won't see results, 6-7 times a week your muscles won't have a chance to rest and grow.
  • Even if you don't get an AMAB body type, it'll boost the HELL out of your confidence and thus make you more masculine.
  • Trust me.
  • Start small. Do whatever you're comfy with.
  • Can't jog? Start by walking around your block. Take a week. Two. Three. See if you can speed up.
  • Can't do push-ups? Neither can I and I've been working out for three years! Start on your knees. Still can't? On an inclined surface. In a pinch, just use the wall.
  • Can't do sit-ups? Start with crunches. Pull your arms forward instead of tucking them behind your head, I can't tell you why but it makes it SO much easier.
  • Can't do 100 dumbell curls? Who says you have to! Do 10. Do 5. Do one, and try two tomorrow.
  • Focus on your arms, your chest, and calves. I mean, do everything if you can, but those areas are a good start.
  • Just. Start.
  • I promise it gets easier and it feels so good.
  • And once you have a schedule... Don't beat yourself up if you can't stick to it!
  • Missed a day? Oh well. Try tomorrow. Try again next week.
  • Still too hard? Maybe your overworking. Listen to your body. Lessen your reps.
  • Start slow. Build up. You got this.
fardf150
fardf150

my fellow trans men:

you do not need to feel sorry for being a man.

you have done nothing wrong. you have betrayed no one.

the fact that you are a man is wonderful and beautiful. the fact that you are a man is something you should be allowed to like.

you are allowed to love yourself as a man. you have done nothing wrong.

you are strong and beautiful.

i love you, and you'd better love yourself too- if not, baby steps. you can't undo it in a night, but you deserve to try. for yourself.

much love <3

descent-into-helll
deadpoolsdickwarmer

The fact that nobody is talking about Secret’s new commercials pisses me off

softwhorecore

This makes me so happy ☺️

iamhannalashay

Yesssss😭 I damn near cried

dwaynewaynejr

I LOVE THIS OMFG

tormans-space

YOOOOOOOOOOO THATS AMAZING!!!!!

bussykween

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Originally posted by realitytvgifs

trufflebootybuttercream

Can someone help me understand I wanna cry to ..I feel something went over my head

author-j-lynn-collins

The woman in the bathroom is trans and is scared that if she comes out of the stall the women that walked in will insult or harass her. but when she comes out they compliment her on her dress instead. The add ends with saying “stress tested for women.” It means Secret is including trans women in their definition of women. 

viragon

I have reblogged this three times now, each one mentioning the fact that Secret not only included a trans woman, but that they /had the other women compliment her dress and treat her with respect/. I will reblog this every time I see it because it’s so important. More companies should involve trans people in their marketing - we do exist. Props to Secret for getting in on this movement. It makes me really happy to see more of the trans community represented in daily television.

pokemon-professor-grey

Reblog the shit out of this

yetanothertaylor

We need more positive things like this!

notyrqueer

Okay but I did cry

descent-into-helll
rosyfingeredqueer

tbh I will never roll my eyes at corporate queer stuff because I remember when there was a huge spate of suicides of queer children because they thought they’d never be accepted, and that it’d never get better.

rosyfingeredqueer

like, as I said in the tags

yeah. corporations just want our money.

but here’s the thing: once upon a time, they didn’t. they didn’t sell to us. they were just as greedy but we were so beneath them they didn’t want money if it came from us. they asked us to leave the store. they refused to bake cakes for us. they refused to rent or sell us housing. a lot of queer kids were made homeless or DIED because they thought it’d always be that way, that the world would always hate us.

corporations being sluts for our money, and openly showing the homophobes that they prefer our money over theirs, is a GOOD THING and a sign of progress and I will die on that hill.

absolutely support small businesses and indies. but Jesus don’t flat out refuse to give money to a corporation for celebrating pride, because that’s what the homophobes literally want people to do and in this dystopic society you (and I’m dying inside as I say this) NEED corporations on your side because of the sheer scale of their influence. WE NEED THAT INFLUENCE.

use corporations as mercilessly as they use us. none of this purity bullshit. I’ll be the first in line to help strip them of their power, but they’re letting the homophobes know that that age is dying, and that has power.

angiebeagoodgirl

All this was less than 15 years ago. Please keep that in mind.

rosyfingeredqueer

Exactly!

Some of it is even more recent. The epidemic of queer children suicides hitting the news? That was last decade. It’d been going on for much longer than that but at one point our fight had progressed enough the media started reporting on it and the suicides even went up for a while, and I was on tumblr when that happened, that’s how recent it is.

So how can I sneer at corporations showing support widely when kids dying used to be normal?

I can’t even fully attribute the motivations corporations rainbowing up their logo as completely for money. There’s probably queer people who put their jobs on the line and fought for the company to DO that.

So whenever I see someone going “UGH the corporations are pandering to us again”?

that’s

that’s a good thing!!!! how is that NOT a good thing???

learn your history, talk to your queer elders – some of us have been fighting twenty years or longer and for many of us this is a sign that we are winning, and that a decades-long fight is paying off!

rosyfingeredqueer

Reblogging to add an addendum to clarify, since related stuff has been cropping up on my dash and I feel this post isn’t complete without addressing it:

If a company is rainbowing their logo up but doing homophobic shit behind closed doors, the answer is not for them to stop rainbowing up their logo, but to stop doing the homophobic shit.

If they’re doing homophobic shit absolutely call that crap out.

descent-into-helll
sheepsbian

as much as i appreciate the increased usage of they/them pronouns as a non binary person that uses those pronouns, y'all need to also understand that using they/them on someone who does not use they/them is still misgendering

notveryproductive

Using they/them for someone whose gender/pronouns you’re unsure of: good; doesn’t make assumptions; more concise and inclusive than the dreaded “he or she.” not misgendering

Using they/them for someone who has already told you their gender/pronouns (and doesn’t use they/them): not good; ignores their implicit/explicit wishes; often used as an ‘out’ by closet transphobes to avoid referring to a binary trans person with their preferred pronouns while still appearing ‘woke.’ this is misgendering